Maybe I am a romantic but I ....lolo.....I just believe that a Man should pursue a Woman. That he should find her and let her know his interest. It lets a Woman know that he understands and acknowledges her worth. lol


I believe if a Woman allows a Man to pursue her, it will prove to him how much he is interested as well as makes her to understand her worth.  


There is always reasons for the structure of dating. 


Here is a quote I seen that explains the structure.
"Marriage isnt just an agreement between two people to live life together. Marriage is a God-ordained institution that helps us understand love and unity. When two people are married, they become one spiritually, emotionally and physically. Notice the progression Spiritually and Emotionally during courtship and Physically at marriage. Foundation is everything!!!!! By: Marvin Sapp


When you are able to blend and share spiritually, then you can allow your emotions to become involved.  Then if it is right you marry then to become one physically.

God has a divine plan.

Coupons, coupons, coupons

I am a very frugal kind of person.  If I have extra and want something special I don't mind getting it but as a general rule, I look for the best bargains.  Hard times have taught me this. 


Sooooo....I love coupons because they really do help. As well as checking the local newspapers to see who has sells on things you need. 


I do recycling.  If I can use it for something else , I will.


So I am listing some coupon sites that you can go to, to print up coupons.  Hope it helps all of ya'll out in some way.


1. Coupon Suzy-
http://www.couponsuzy.com/couponweb/Offers.aspx?pid=13953&zid=jl94&nid=10&bid=alk0503070548dcba9226a4918

2.http://www.couponmom.com/


3,http://www.freecoupons.com/


4. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Grocery-Coupons-101/161544770573182?ref=ts

5.https://www.facebook.com/PrintableGroceryCoupons?ref=ts

6.https://www.facebook.com/freegrocerycoupons?ref=ts

If you have any you would like to share..feel free to post in comment.

My Story.....

I remember being little, lining up my baby dolls and having me some Church. My Father and Mother Preached. They took me to prayer meetings and tent revivals. I grew up seeing the miraculous take place.

I knew at an early age that God had plans for my life. I wasn't sure what, other than singing, and speaking to people.
So it should not have surprised me that satan would assign an assassin to me at an early age. When I was only a young teenager, an Assistant Youth Leader tried to molest me. Only by the driving up of a car, was I saved from losing my virginity. I was so shocked and felt confused at how a man who was married, and had prayed with me, could try to violate me. I ended up running away from home and living with a family. I couldn't go back to that church and my family didn't understand. I was afraid to tell anyone. I didn't think they would believe me. So I lived in a cool, damp basement. At night huge spiders would come out. So I would leave the light on at night in hopes that they wouldn't come out. My books started to mildew because of the dampness. It was a hard time in my life. By the time I went home I only weighed 85 lbs. I couldn't shake the deep fear I felt.

It was like a curse on me. My friend's fathers would try to come on to me. It was like every where I went some one was trying to violate me and mess up my mind. I had a Female Music Director try to force her way on me. 

It wasn't until I was 19 years old that, I was held down and raped by someone I had dated, and knew for years. I never saw it coming. I felt so dirty and useless. I didn't believe that I could fulfill the call on my life. I felt I wasn't worthy. I didn't want to disgrace the name of my God with such filth. I left church at that point and didn't go back for 2 and a half years. I became an alcoholic, drugs, had relations with guys. I felt it better to give myself than be forced on. I guess I wanted someone to help me understand why it kept happening. I began to spiral down and sat with a gun in my hand, not wanting to live any more, when my best friend called. She never knew that she was all that stopped me from putting an end to the torment satan was doing in my mind.

I ended up back in church with no intentions of ever being anything more than just serving God. I married a guy that was verbally and physically abusive, cheating and spent 10 years trying to make things change. He didn't change. I had to leave for my kids. I wanted more than that for them. My Ex told me I would never be able to raise my kids, hold a job, and no man would ever have me because he had screwed me up so bad. With those cursing words I began to start my life over. 

I sang on the Worship Team at my church and was Missionette Coordinator. I loved to sing and worship God. A friend had invited me to join a Southern Gospel Group that traveled all over Florida. I would sing in between their songs. I did this for a while. We had even discussed me cutting a CD. Until one day the leader of the group, who was married, tried to force himself on me. I got away from him. Ran home, packed my songs up and said NO MORE! I couldn't even trust men that where in leadership, called themselves men of God. So I had no desire to sing, or fulfill the call. I had told my friends about it, but they made excuses for him and that was that.

I was back on a road of destruction. I couldn't face the horrible things that had happen. So a guy I knew would have me over and we would snort coke, smoke pot, whatever it took to forget. I sat in his truck one night outside a crack house and wondered how I got there. I begged God if he would help me stop, that I would never do it again. That night I got very sick and it turned my stomach to think of doing any of the drugs. I knew God had stepped in with divine intervention, before I destroyed myself.

I sat in my walk in closet one night, crying and begging God to please never leave me, please don't ever stop loving me. I had been wounded, rejected, abused, abandoned. I couldn't bare the thoughts of not being in God's presence. 

I started going to another church, Faith World and became stable in God again. I had become an Intercessor. My Intercessor Pastor, Marty, taught me how to start over, heal. I sat in my closet and made Covenant with God. I told him that if he would guard me and not allow men to rape, and force themselves on me, that I would forever serve him with all my heart. That I would fulfill my call if he would send a covering. For I didn't want to be in Ministry again without my Covering. After that night things have never been the same. My life has been changed. The road has been long. The journey hard, but God has walked with me, carried me, guarded me, provided for me the whole way. 

I lost my job last year. Then I lost my car. So I no longer could go to church.  I had no way. There isn't a lynx bus or anything near where we lived.  It has been a horrible experience, but I know that I am learning what others are walking through. I am trying to allow God to mold me and make me a better person. It's not about me any more. It's about God. All my dreams and ambitions....I have handed to him. What direction he takes me from here, is up to him. I know that I am going to be blessed greatly to be able to bless others. My heart is to help those hurting, and needy. For I have walked through hell many times. But for the grace of God, and loving kindness, I would never have made it.


Eventually we lost our house we were living in and had to move in with my Parents.  I felt like a failure and little hope. Not long after we moved in with my Parents I realized it was in God's plan.  They needed to be taken care of.  Their health has gotten worse and they depend on us for so much.   


My Parents live in a small trailer, so I sleep on the floor on a pallet.  My son sleeps in Dad's old van.  My daughter sleeps in the room Momma used to sleep in.  Momma sleeps on the couch and Dad in his room.  Momma gets up and down so it is easier to sleep on the couch. We have walked through some really tough times.  I can't work I need to take care of them.  I don't want to stick them in a Nursing home.  They deserve better.  Yet things get tight.  My son is trying to find a job close to wear we live.  Scilla is trying to get her GED and helps me alot with my parents.  They have alot of medical needs.  I don't regret it.  I cherish my parents and decided to walk this journey with them.  I know this is a season and it will one day change.




God placed wonderful, loving parents over me. Gave two beautiful Children to love and walk this journey with. He has placed friends in my life to bring such joy, encouragement and friendship. I am blessed. 

The enemy wanted to distort my mind. Make me have low self esteem. He set out to corrupt my image of Leadership so that I wouldn't want to be in leadership. What the enemy has meant for evil, God has meant for good. I am stronger, wiser, better, because of all I have walked through. 


Things aren't the way I want them to be, but I am willing to sacrifice until they get better. I know God is going to bless my family so that we can be a blessing to others.  


We are going to New Destiny Christian Center, with Pastor Paula White.  I know God has a divine plan to teach me, instruct me and help me grow deeper for preparation for all he has for me to do.  I believe he has set my family there to be embraced and loved unconditionally for healing, restoration and growth.  I am excited for what God is doing.  God has ordered our steps.  His plans are different than ours.  But He will get me to where he has destined me to be in His time.


It's not over. There is much more learning, growing to do. I believe God is going to do divine things through me and my family. I am willing. I know God will take care of me, my needs, desires. He will be true to me as his word is true.

Christmas Message

I watched my Momma lay in ER with her brain bleeding and was told she may not make it.  This was in February of this year.  Then when she made it through the operation, draining her brain, they said she may have't to use a walker, and not quite be the same.  


BUT GOD...has done amazing miracles in her.  I have watched God heal, deliver, and restore her.


She walks without assistance.  She is now starting to cook and do more.  She plays cards, and is as witty as ever.  God has done a true supernatural miracle and I just want to thank God for daily restorer her life.  

Weakness

It is in our weakness that we cry.  We feel like failures or hopeless.  Often our strength is gone.  We have given and given. Pushed and pressed until we feel empty.
Take hope my little ones.  God says in his word that in OUR weakness....

2 Cor 12:9
New Living Translation (©2007)
Each time he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can workthrough me.

2 Cor. 12:10

New Living Translation (©2007)
That's why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

There are times when everyone is pulling and tugging at me and I feel like collapsing.  I have't to get to alone and pray.  The I spend time in God's presence, allowing him to strengthen me and remind me that I can to do all things because of HIS strength.  

When I am weak, not enough provisions, don't have the answers, feel weak or sick in body, God gets all the glory when I am able to get up and keep walking.  He gets the glory for walking us through or carrying us through.  

So never feel like a failure because you are at the end of your rope.  God is there and waiting to do something spectacular. 

Character

Out of the pressure of life and stress, comes the true colors of who we are.  Daily we face circumstances.   Some good, some bad.  We are able to see ourselves in different situations and know what our true character is.


Out of lack, and hard times our creativity blossoms.  We learn how to take simple things and recycle and make them useful, as well as lovely.  Sometimes these times bring to surface gifts and talents we didn't know we have.  


So never begrudge hard times, times of lack.  Walk through it with the understanding...it is only a season.  Learn, grow, and trust God to work in and through you.  Perfecting his plan for your life.

Heritage

It is awesome when we learn about our heritage.  Whatever it is.  Knowing the roots from where we have come from.  Traditions, customs, beliefs and such.


For instance.....My Great Grandmother was an Indian.  Not sure what tribe, but she was an American Indian.  She married a redheaded Irishman.  Their daughter (my Grandma Miller) married a German Man.  That is only my Momma's side.


On Daddy's side they traced our linage back to Francis Scott Key.  My Daddy's people go back to the Keys. Which would mean I know I have English in me on his side.


Learning about the American Indian, Irish, Germans, English....is learning about me.  


The same thing is true about God.  When we learn about him and the children of Israel, we are learning about the spiritual family we have been adopted into.  The more you learn the more you understand why you are the way you are.  You learn respect and take on the God you serve with greater clarity. That is why the bible says to study to show yourself approve.  Learn about your heritage in God.  There is much to know and it is very exciting.

Golden Years.

As I have watched my Parents age, it hasn't been easy.  The young, mobile, quick witted ones I have always knew, are slowing down.  They no longer feel very well.  Nor do they want to go any where.  It was during this time that I made the decision to walk with them at their pace.  To take care of them, as they did of me.  Not only in raising me, but after my divorce they helped me raise my kids.


Not everyone is equipped for it because it does take alot of patience.  There are times I sit outside and unwind listening to birds or the gentle breeze blowing to regroup.  I know though that the reward of their time allotted with me is a gift.  So through thick and thin, good and bad, sickness and health, we walk this journey of aging.


I almost lost my Momma recently and know that every day is a blessed gift of God. She should have already died, but she lives.  Both my Parents have loved their kids, grandkids with a deep love.  Perfect? No but to the best of their ability.  So it is with great honor that we now  tend to them.  Usher them throw these golden years. 

WORSHIP IS A LIFESTYLE

Worship
WORSHIP IS A LIFESTYLE 
by Darlene Zschech

We often hear the phrase "Worship is a lifestyle". What does this really mean? It simply means to live a life of love. To love extravagantly. The first commandment, to LOVE the Lord your God with ALL your heart, with ALL your soul, and with your entire mind, means exactly that. You make a heart and mind decision to continually seek first the Kingdom of God, and to OBEY the Spirit of God in your life, as He calls you on to a greater and deeper knowledge of Himself.

Worship requires something of you, and that is OBEDIENCE.

Why do people cringe away from obedience? I believe it is because it requires a response. John 14:12 says, "Whoever has my commands and OBEYS them, he is the one who LOVES me. My Father will love him who LOVES me, and I too will LOVE him and show myself to him."

And verse 23 says, "If anyone LOVES me, he will OBEY my teaching. My Father will LOVE him and we will come to him and make our home with him. He who does not LOVE me will not OBEY me. These words you hear are not my own, they belong to my Father who sent me." LOVE and OBEDIENCE are tied together.

Every time you open up your heart in obedience to God and worship Him with all your heart, all your mind, and all your soul, our beautiful Lord responds with His magnificent presence. You need to continually be in the presence of God. Not only on Sundays, in a corporate place of worship, but in that secret place that maybe only you and the Lord will ever know about.

It's in this place of worship that you find yourself needing to respond to the Lord, to whatever He is asking, as WORSHIP PULLS BACK THE LAYERS OF YOUR HEART – TO EXPOSE WHAT'S REALLY THERE.

CONFESS

In Isaiah 6… when Isaiah caught sight of God he was moved to confess his sin.

When your humanness is confronted by the magnificence and holiness of God, you are made SO aware of your need for God’s grace and his cleansing power in your life. If you have unforgiveness, anger, jealousy, bitterness… ask God to forgive you. Romans 12:1 teaches us how to live this life of worship and love.

TRANSPARENCY

Psalm 51 says it so well, that when you are in the presence of the Lord, you become totally transparent and honest and your heart and soul cry out to pray "create in me a clean heart, oh God, and renew a right spirit within me". Read the Message Bible translation – it will inspire you to greater heights.

CLARITY

As you simply and wholeheartedly LOVE and ADORE your God, you receive revelation and understanding of your kingdom purpose. Romans 8:28 reveals that "… in all things God works for the good of those who LOVE Him, who have been called according to His purpose". Many Christians spend their lifetime frustrated at never knowing their Kingdom purpose. I challenge you to get in the presence of God, have an open heart to hear His voice, for He desires ALL He has planned for you even more than you do!

HUNGER

Another heart response is that your hunger for the things of God, your hunger for His Word and His truth increases. John 7:37! If anyone is thirsty, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as the scriptures have said, streams of living water will flow from within him. Say YES to the Lord calling you to know Him more through his Word. It is LIFE to your soul.

REST COMES

Psalm 91:1 "He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High, shall abide in the shadow of the Almighty."

Joy and strength are found in His dwelling place, in His presence. If you feel like you are continually running on empty, then again, you need to respond and obey the Spirit of God and GET IN HIS PRESENCE. If I have learned one thing, it is that we were never meant to live this supernatural call, with purely natural ability. You will not make it… BUT if you take God at His Word, live in His presence, life a life of love, and respond to His voice, you WILL live your entire lifetime growing in the knowledge of Christ, always fresh and strong in the Word, and living a life that people will want to follow.

... And you thought worship was all about songs!

Love,
Darlene

“Seven Ways to Praise the Lord”

1. Towdah-
This is the sacrifice of praise.  Praising the Lord in spite of the fact that things are upside down in your world.  Praising the Lord, even if you don’t feel like praising the Lord.  Praising the Lord even though you are going through many trials in your life.  This is your sacrifice to God.
Hebrews 13:15
Jeremiah 33:11
Psalm 54:6

2. Yadah-
This is the demonstration of our love and submission to the Lord by the raising of our hands.  Lifting your hands to the Lord in total submission and devotion.
Lamentations 3:41
Psalm 63:4
Psalm 134:2

3. Barough-
This means to bow. To be completely overwhelmed by His majesty and bow at His feet in submission and honor to the Lord.
Ephesians 3:13-14
Romans 14:11
Psalm 95:6

4. Shabach-
This means to shout.  Praise to the Lord given in the form of a shout.  Lifting your voice unto the Lord, giving praise for what He has done and what He is going to do.
Psalm 98:7
Ezra 3:11
Isaiah 12:6

5. Zamar-
Playing any instrument that glorifies the Lord.
Psalm 150

6. Halell-
This means to rave and boast of the wonders of the Lord with excitement through dance.
Psalm 149:3
2 Samuel 6:16
Psalm 30:11

7. Tehillah-
This one is the best.  It is the combination of singing, shouting, dancing, clapping and rejoicing before the Lord.
Psalm 47:1, Psalm 47:6, Psalm 144:9

Facts in reality aren't God's reality

I have walked through some really tough times.  Times when there was only beans, rice, crackers, water.  Even less.  I have been without a car when I lost my job, for almost 2 and 1/2 years.  Sat in 4 walls day after day, crying wondering if God had forgot me. Has my electric off before, for 2 months.  The list goes on.

Yet even in my poverty, loss, grief, disappointment...God was still God.  He had a plan for my life.  He wanted me to trust that he would walk me through it all.  God doesn't always just instantly fix things like we want, but he always comes through on time.

I ask God for a vehicle and then I began to tell my children that God was able and going to provide us with a vehicle.  Annddd ....he did.  He lined it up and provided us with the money to buy it.  When you seek God and love him regardless of your situation, he can't help but show up and take care of you. He doesn't always promise steak...sometimes your manna may be peanut butter and jelly, or mac n cheese but it will carry you through.  He is always an on time God.

There have been times that we had the car but no gas and God would provide from out of no where, gas money.

So I encourage you today, that no matter you are walking through.  Whether it is a marriage in trouble, troubled kids, financial, emotional, health, whatever it is....Don't lose your praise.  Don't stop telling God who he is to you and loving him. Love God through the good and love God in the bad times.  See what your God will do.